Sunday, 23 November 2014

THE CRY OF A CHILD HURTS ITS MOTHER MOST by Daisy Waitherero Wambua 


The video of a house help going ham on a two year old baby has gone viral. Anyone who comes across it only fears the worst for their baby and for those with no babies; nephews, nieces and grandchildren come to mind when they watch it. You will resign from work after watching it. 

On a normal working day, the father and his wife leave the house early in the morning entrusting their first born baby with a guardian. As normal working parents they come home late in the night and have minimal interaction with their baby.  

Over the weekend, they give the house help a day off so that she can also rest and catch up with her friends and family. The neighbor tips off the mother that her baby keeps on crying during the day but she brushes off as all babies cry endlessly for no reason.  A couple of weeks later she is asked by another neighbor whether her baby is sick because she is unusually crying throughout the day. 

The mother finally decides to take action and puts a nanny camera in the living room. What she learns thereafter makes her quit her seven digit job and becomes a full time mother. The thought of having a help at her house has since then been unheard of. A promise she made to always be independent and provide for her own children was broken that very day and she now depends on her husband. This was a full contradiction as she is a strong advocate of feminism.

She still cries every night when she goes to bed, knowing that she almost lost her only child; and not for a reason that she herself would have a peace of mind if her baby died. She did what most mothers would do; sacrifice. She gave up her ambitions, her hard work, her inspiration and her fortitude for something more precious than life itself and that is her own flesh and blood.

In the golden days women used to raise their own kids and the man used to provide for them but times have changed. Women are multitasking demanding jobs, husbands, families at home and their own children. Gone are the days when men used to solely provide. We as women have stepped up but is the cost really worth it?

A husband having no one to come home to but the help, another woman running your house like its hers, your kids adopting foreign behaviours, excessive fatigue from work and various demands from home. At the end of the day, what builds you is what will lead you to your grave. Live by the sword and die by it. Does your work weigh more than the mannerism your child adopts?  Is your promotion at work more important than watching your baby's first steps?



WARNING AS THE VIDEO BELOW IS GRAPHICAL
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